Dear TBS,
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My advice and the bibles advice: Don’t date him. But rather, witness to him and then keep your distance. If he is a true convert, invite him to church (to meet you there) and that is the only context in which I would see him. Then you’ll see if he is serious about the Lord. If he continues to go for a long period of time and demonstrates genuine repentance, it might be evidence that he is going because of the Lord and not just for you.
Remember, there is no such thing as “missionary” dating. We don’t date to convert. Don't “date” him in hopes that he will get “saved”. Rather, get to know someone who IS a Christian and then marry.
You are not to be unequally yoked (2 Cor 6:14,1 John 1:6). So scripture is clear that you are to cut it off. Imagine a Christian spouse toying with the question, “Is it okay for me to commit adultery...maybe I'll pray about it?" Scripture makes it clear that you are never to commit adultery. In the same way, scripture makes it clear that you are not to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever. You don’t have to debate or pray about cutting it off. God has given you the manual (the Bible) to guide you and to light your path (Psalm 119:105).
And also remember that you have a real adversary (The Devil) who
seeks to devour and destroy you. There is a spiritual battle going on here (2 Cor 10:5, Eph 6:12).
I’m so glad you have emailed. I hope this has helped a bit.
Oh and when you get 33 minutes watch “180”. 8 American College age students are asked “Who is Adolf Hitler” and they don’t know. It had over a million views on Youtube in 1 month. I work for the maker of the documentary. I lead a team of people to University North Texas and Texas Women's University to pass out 180 DVD's last month (we gave out 1,000's in just under 6 hrs)...
Not everyone was happy though (The maker of the DVD (Ray Comfort) has a daily TV program. He shows what happened at TWU after a student watched the DVD):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=86RE7VpIMKA&feature=player_embedded (forward to the 5 minute mark)
Trish